Friday, December 31, 2010
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
"It is so much easier to love what you have, than to yearn for what you don't have." Meryl Streep - One True Thing, 1998
...it was just a thought
November and December are usually the happiest time of year for me. I love the energy surrounding the holidays. I cherish the smiles on the children's, and the panic on the parent's, faces!
The invention of online shopping has been my savior! There is nothing worse than being in the holiday spirit and having to trudge through the bustling crowds at the mall or walking down freezing ice edged streets trying to find a little something unique for a few exceptional people. No way, I love sitting by the fireplace, gazing out the window at the new fallen snow and catching a glimpse of the Christmas tree, while every so slowly, finding the right gifts - online. Not that I don't indulge in shopping, but when I do, I make sure I don't need to buy anything. I enjoy window shopping, walking along Madison Avenue (the new Ralph Lauren stores are comparable to a vacation destination!) or scouring the quaint shops in SOHO. ABC Carpet is one of the best destinations to preview...then stop in the restaurant and enjoy a lite lunch. Palmer Trading Company is a miniature RL (style) store offering fascinating vintage finds. If I need something to eat, The Clinton Street Bakery & Restaurant or Ed's Chowder House, located in the Empire Hotel will satify my needs. If I am in the mood to have a cocktail and sit by the fireplace, I go to Jimmy the James Hotel or One if By Land, Two if by Sea - both offer fireplaces and fine, expensive food and drinks
When the shopping is done, a good classic movie is what completes the holiday feeling. Holiday Inn (1942) with Bing Crosby, Fred Astaire and Virginia Hale, Christmas in Connecticut (1945) featuring Barbara Stanwyck and Sydney Greenstreet and The Shop Around the Corner with Jimmy Stewart and Margaret Sullivan are tops on my list. The every joyous musical, White Christmas (1954) is another that churns my memories.
Connecting with good friends is the most blissful element of the season! Oh, I know we cannot all meet for lunch or chat for hours every night on the phone or email our daily doings. But just the thought of all of my dear friends warms my heart. I have found so many colleagues on Linkedin.com and many have found me. It is a delight to know that friends from 30 years ago still hold a spot in their hearts for me, as I do for them! Facebook is another story...too much information, if you ask me. Although, I am grateful for the people who have connected with me over the last year or so.
This year, I sent as many people Christmas cards as I had addresses. I took pleasure in the personal connection. One of my goals this year is to obtain more addresses, not email addresses, but home addresses, so that next year, I can expand my reach and touch more people who have touched me throughout my life.
The quote at the beginning of this post reached deep into my soul. For the many years we are given as the gift of life, we often spend most of our time yearning for something more. As I get older (yes, we old people reflect a lot!!!) I see what a waste of time that can be. I am not saying we should not reach or improve our lives. What I am driving at is this: If your children are driving you nuts...imagine what life would be like without them. If your husband is close to being put out on the street...think about what made you fall in love with him in the first place. If you think your mother is being too interfering, (go back to the children above), think about how they see you and imagine a life without your mom. Is the dog hair all over the place and driving you insane? Look into your dog's eyes and take in the unconditional love she gives you...who will love you that much when she is gone?
Do I still yearn to be alone? Heck yes! but I know that a small amount of alone time is all I want and what I need is the hectic, chaotic, noisy life I actually have everyday!
So next time you feel at wits end, think about loving what you have, not what you don't have.
Have a Happy New Year!!!!